Spring Break is just about over, and I have to say it has been one of the best, by far, EVER! I don’t mean for this to come across as bragging or to make anyone else feel bad, especially you. I am just completely renewed and refreshed and ready (for whatever life – and the kids – throws my way). For the first time in about seven years (give or take a few months), I got to be a wife and a woman again. I left my “mommy” hat at home with the boys, and Nana and Grandpa who watched them.
Will and I were blessed with an all-paid-for trip to the Ritz Carlton on Maui. It was fantastic, to say the least. More than just the beauty of the island, it was exactly what Will and I needed to rekindle our marriage. We weren’t in jeopardy or struggling or anything like that, but you know what it’s like having two young kids at home, trying to run the house (let alone a business), a husband who works hard for us and doesn’t always make it home for dinner or bedtime – it’s exhausting! And it doesn’t leave much time or energy left over for romance (in or out of the bedroom).
So Will and I happily packed our bags for six days in Hawaii and we had the best time! We laughed the way we used to. We held hands the way we used to. We went on adventures, relaxed, enjoyed spectacular sunsets together, and loved each other the way we used to.
It’s hard to leave your kids for an extended period of time, and Will and I both have, but not together at the same time. It took planning – months of planning, and a three-page typed document outlining everything I could possibly think of that Nana and Grandpa would need to know (yep, I’m that person… and I have no shame in it either. *wink). I think I missed my boys more than they missed me – but in reality that made it easier for me. I wasn’t worried about them being okay or having a good time. How could they NOT have a good time?!
Bottom line, you have to make time for your spouse or partner.
I’m not saying you need to book the next flight to Maui (but hey, if that works for you then Aloha!). Do something together, as a couple, no kids. Start small if you have to and work your way up to a night or a week away. Trust me, it will do everyone some good! And don’t forget, while you’re with each other, make sure you’re being present, just like you need to be with your kids. Your spouse needs that emotional connection too.