Find somebody who makes you feel safe, in whom you can put your trust. It doesn’t necessarily need to be your doctor; it might be a close friend, or your doula, or a family member. It just needs to be someone you feel comfortable with, who won’t judge you, and to whom you can talk with honestly and regularly.
– Excerpt from my book, Reclaim the Joy of Motherhood
If it hadn’t been for three amazing women, I honestly don’t know what would have become of me. In the depths of my Postpartum Depression, I was barely able to pick up the phone and call my doula and friend, Marlena, for help. But when I did call, she didn’t ask any questions – she simply supported me and made me feel safe. Later, it was another friend, Courtney, who talked me through the incredibly daunting task of calling my doctor. And as my healing process began, it was a third friend, Elisa, who kept me from sinking backward into the fog.
I know, from the bottom of my heart, just how lucky I am to have these women in my life. Their support, understanding, and kindness have strengthened me on so many levels. I can tell them anything, without judgment. Quite simply, I trust them with my heart.
I have seen first-hand how a “trust person” can make an incredible difference, not only in healing, but in building positive habits for your future. That’s why, as part of my HAPPY Mommy Method, I urge every woman to find at least one trust person who will support you, accept you, and hold you accountable to your happiness. And, if you are having trouble finding that person, I offer my own trust to you.
Your trust person can be absolutely anyone in your life with whom you feel totally comfortable and open. It could be a family member, a friend, a priest or mentor. The only requirement is that they should always make you feel supported, and of course they should know what a special place they have in your life, and be willing to be there for you when you need them.
Here are some questions to ask yourself as you think about your own trust person, or about how to create this relationship with someone in your life.
Who can you trust and be open with right now?
How often do you talk to this person?
Do you feel supported when you talk to this person? Why or why not?
Is there anyone else in your life in whom you would like to confide?
If you truly don’t feel that you have a trust relationship at this point in your life, I hope you will get in touch with me. My heart is always open to you!